IF YOU ACTUALLY KNEW YOURSELF, YOU’D BE ABLE TO FEEL LOVE

Knowing yourself better than anyone else is a must if you want to build authentic connection with someone.

When someone else knows you better than you know yourself all that really means is that you haven’t taken the time to figure out who you are or what you are made of.

That’s when covert agreements can form in relationships, meaning they are left with the responsibility of discovering what you have not actually chosen to explore for yourself. Tricky situation for everyone.

It’s not a fair exchange–allowing someone to know you in more detail than you have bothered to know yourself. You inevitably create an imbalance in the relationship and the scale of power is skewed.

Although you are an independent, grown human, you have given your person the “discovery” power and that is a ticking time bomb… because it will never be another person’s place to know you better than YOU know YOU.

That’s not to say we won’t have blind spots or that our people won’t bring things to our attention that we were previously unaware of. But it IS to say that you know your triggers, wounds, needs, desires, and feelings first and well.

If you desire deep connection, fluid intimacy, and fulfilling partnership, then come into the relationship whole–positioned to know yourself more everyday, embracing every part of you (the dark and the light), and open to share yourself with someone else.

When two whole people show up for connection, the space between them is fertile ground to plant a garden (relationship). And if those two whole people learn how to effectively communicate, WATCH OUT! That shit is going to be magic!

That space between–it’s the sacred, delicate, passionate container you and your person will get to create the relationship design you EACH desire.

It starts with you knowing YOURSELF in all the dark corners and the hidden rooms.

You’ll never understand what an incredible piece of human gold you are until you discover it for yourself.

So go find YOU. Take notes on what you learn. Let this be an adventure for the rest of your life.

XO,

MK