THE SELF-SABOTAGE MIND-FIELD
Self-sabotage keeps you from being able to receive love. It’ll leave you empty, searching and always wanting more. But how do you STOP being your own worst enemy?
ON EMOTIONAL EXCHANGE
…–if you don’t know what you’re worth, you will not be able to identify or set clear boundaries to safeguard YOUR TRUTH.
HOW IS CODEPENDENCY SERVING YOU?
The thing about codependency is that it actually DOESN’T serve you. It works against you and covertly sabotages your perceptions of the people you love and their perception of you.
FAULT VS. RESPONSIBILITY: WHAT’S THE DIFF?
Fault vs. Responsibility, do you know the difference?
THE TRIGGER-BLAME GAME
Has anyone ever said to you, “You always want more… you expect too much… I can never seem to make you happy…” or anything else similar?
THE COLLATERAL DAMAGE OF CODEPENDENCY
There are all kinds of ways codependent habits feed covert agreements in relationships
HOW DOES YOUR SOUL GARDEN GROW?
Picture your soul as a garden. What does it look like? Has it been well kept? Is it overgrown?
HERE’S HOW NOT TO GET STUCK IN PAIN
If pain is inevitable, then how can we keep opening ourselves up to LIFE and not get stuck in fear of more pain?
THE ABC’S OF CONNECTING WITH HUMANS
“Am I too close? Not close enough? How often do I interact with people? What kind of interactions am I having? Am I happy with my partner? Do I long to have a partner? Will I be alone for the rest of my life?”
THE REAL COST OF LIVING WITH AN OPEN HEART
If pain is inevitable, then how can we keep opening ourselves up to LIFE and not get stuck in fear of more pain?
IF YOU ACTUALLY KNEW YOURSELF, YOU’D BE ABLE TO FEEL LOVE
Knowing yourself better than anyone else is a must if you want to build authentic connection with someone.
CONNECTION STEP 2: CURIOSITY
The beginnings are when we feel the most excitement. New job, new opportunities, new love, new baby, rediscovering ourselves.
CONNECTION STEP 3: CUES
In his research with the Gottman Institute, Dr. John Gottman found that one of the most foundational elements for building a satisfying, intimate relationship is when both partners are aware and positively responsive to the subtle “cues” or bids for interaction by their significant other.
CONNECTION STEP 1: SEPARATENESS
A lot of times we use separateness to make us feel protected and special. But the truth is, we’re really not that different from each other.
WHAT EVEN IS A HEALTHY SENSE OF SELF?
Maintaining a healthy sense of self requires an on-going and deep connection with yourself.
THE ACTUAL KEY TO LIFE: CONNECTION
When I first discovered the key to life, I used the term relationships. Relationship to self and the world around me. But as I have chewed on this theory for seven years now, I have revised it.
FOR THOSE WHO CAN’T STOP EMOTIONALLY WHORING THEMSELVES OUT
If you know what I mean when I say that, then this is for you… Emotionally whoring yourself out is NOT the same thing as being vulnerable.
ARE YOU MY MOTHER SYNDROME: THE ETERNAL SEARCH FOR BELONGING
When you belong to yourself, you stop asking for other people’s approval.